We were delighted to have sex educator Lady Cheeky at our Los Angeles store last night, teaching her body positive workshop Big Beautiful Sex. She shared her insights about overcoming fat-shaming, building sexual confidence, and finding the toys and positions that work best for your body. The workshop was such a big hit that we want to share the highlights with all of you!
Tips for Learning to Feel Sexy
Remember this: ”The person there with you in the room – they want to be there.”
“To feel better about having sex, you have to have sex.” Notice how confident you are while you’re afterglowing, and bask in that confidence.
Take time to touch the parts of your body that you normally want to hide in ways that feel pleasurable.
If you look in the mirror and think that you look ugly, replace that with a neutral observation: “I have red hair.”
Try going to a Korean spa. Everyone is walking around naked: you get to just be another body.
Notice how you judge other people’s looks. Try to be more compassionate in your thoughts. You’ll train yourself to be nicer to yourself.
Finding Your Favorite Toys
Try a longer toy that gives you some extra reach:
- The Magic Wand Original is an unbeatably powerful vibe.
- The Njoy Pure Wand may look like “a Star Trek torture device,” but it’s everyone’s favorite G-spot/prostate toy.
If you’d like to try strap-on play, the Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit comes with a harness that adjusts up to 82″.
Silicone lube lasts forever, keeps your thighs from chafing in the summer, and loosens doors. Magic.
The We-Vibe 4 vibrator stays in place during intercourse, so that you don’t have to worry about holding it there.
Excellent Sexual Positions
Having a firm pillow to lean on – like a sofa pillow or a Liberator Wedge - can help you find a position that’s more comfortable. For instance, you can have doggy style sex without the stress on your wrists and knees.
Reverse cowgirl lets you control your leverage.
Try having sex on your side; it lets you relax and leaves your hands free for other things.
Liberator pillows are great for oral sex too!
